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Bonnie Mincu

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Those ADD / ADHD stereotypes ain't necessarily so!

Today I want to talk about assumptions.

I was inspired by a comment last week from a reader whose attention was distracted by the formatting in the blog, and who assumed most other ADD / ADHD Adults would dislike it as well.  I was surprised by that assumption, since I had always heard differently.  I realized that I was guilty of assuming that most with ADD / ADHD would find formatting more reader-friendly.

So rather than continue with my assumption, I decided to check it out.   I posed a survey question to my readers about the use of formatting: whether bold face, italics and color made text more reader-friendly for you.   (Thank you for your response;  I especially appreciated all the thoughtful comments and suggestions!)

Here are the answers in order of preference:

  • 47% like bit of formatting
  • 44% LOVE formatting
  • 6% don’t notice it
  • 2% HATE it
  • 1% dislike it

I think the preference of my readers was strong enough to give me a clear mandate to continue my formatting.

But that got me thinking about assumptions in general, and how they aren’t always right.  Especially when it comes to ADD / ADHD Adults and our attention span.

Short attention span?  Not when we’re interested!

We all know that stereotype / assumption that people with ADD have a short attention span.  And it’s true.  We DO have a shorter attention span.  Except when we’re really interested, we get totally focused and lose all track of time.

When I first started giving Thrive with ADD virtual classes in 2002 over the phone, the general assumption was that they shouldn’t go longer than 45 minutes.  Everyone thought an ADHD audience wouldn’t be able to pay attention longer than that.

The problem was, I wanted to give solutions that went in-depth, so that people could leave the class and really understand how they could get the strategies they learned to work for them.  And I wanted people to be able to ask questions.   It just wasn’t possible to reach that level of understanding in 45 minutes.

So I thumbed by nose at the general assumptions and scheduled my classes for 90 minutes.

And a funny thing happened.  With Q&A, they often ran over 90 minutes because the more we got going, the more questions people had.  And the class would still be going strong sometimes at 11:00 at night.  Because when people got really interested, they didn’t want to leave without getting the answer.
 

Virtual ADHD Conference – New In-Depth Master Classes
October 7-10, 2013

The Virtual ADHD Conference is in its sixth year, and this time they’re going to a new format of fewer speakers and longer classes.  I applaud them for bucking the assumption that our ADD attention span is necessarily short.

I’ll be giving a two-hour Master Class on “Obstacles to Time Management.”   I’m really looking forward to this longer format, getting to dig in on this topic with people who really care about solving one of the most pervasive challenges facing most ADD / ADHD Adults.    And I encourage you to ditch any assumption that you’re doomed to have a lifelong problem with lateness and managing time.

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Have you ever realized an assumption of yours was wrong? 
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Author: Bonnie Mincu
Senior Certified ADHD Coach, Founder of "Thrive with ADD," Bonnie has been coaching adults with ADD / ADHD traits since 2001. She has developed numerous training programs to help with the challenges of Adult Attention Deficit Disorder.

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    I assumed that the ADD diagnosis meant that I could only have limited success. After reading the Gift of ADD, I realized that several people with ADD were fabulously successful. It gave me the gumption to persevere and not let my ADD be an insurmountable obstacle.

    Bonnie Mincu

    There are many highly successful people with ADD. Einstein, the founders of JetBlue and Kinkos, Walt Disney, John Kennedy Jr. (and probably JFK) to name just a few. See the 5-minute video online, “The Attention Movie” at http://www.TheAttentionMovie.com.

    suzanne

    There may be an assumption that your readers all have add/adhd.
    I read because my son has adhd.
    Thanks for posting, formatted or not formatted makes no difference.

    Bonnie Mincu

    Actually, I assume there are some who don’t know if they have ADD, but relate to the traits. And of course, others who read my strategies to help loved ones. But I write AS IF the reader is ADD / ADHD since ADD Adults are my primary market.

    mag

    Have you read / google about the ‘gifted’ vs ‘ADD / ADHD’ ? And how they have similar qualities, but they are two different breed? And how the gifted can be misdiagnosed as ADD/ADHD?
    If so, this website of yours, is it more to the gifted OR the genuine ADD / ADHD?

    Bonnie Mincu

    I write about the challenges of ADD, from an ADHD Coach perspective, to help people live their best life. Whether or not one is “gifted,” traits of ADD / ADHD can be frustrating. Being gifted doesn’t help much if you can’t get started or don’t follow through on your ideas.

    mag

    I noticed myself when I wrote / emails to close friends and wrote in the forum or blogs when I don’t have to follow the human’s rules or care about what they will think of me, then i AUTOMATICLY use more CREATIVE and more EMOTIONAL expression ways of writing.
    such as CAPS, CoLOuRs, and different FoNTs and PICS and EmotiCONS
    ┌(・。・)┘♪└(・。・)┐♪┌(・。・)┘
    does it mean i got ADD/ADHD or just being automaticly GIFTED type?

    Bonnie Mincu

    Beats me. Maybe you’re just being you!

    teejay

    When I write, I use bullet point format when I try to convey something to a reader or an audience. And I never try to be clever linguistically like the New York Times. My approach is somewhat abrupt, but, people mostly listen. Then they disagree or agree.

    But, when I read, I do not have time for shenanogins. I usually copy things I see on the computer, to a Word Document. I then reformat to Times Roman 12 or 14 pt. L’s look like L’s and not a numerical one and the character spacing is more constant. Helvetica and many of it’s similar look-alikes, slow my speed and reduce my understanding.

    Bonnie Mincu

    Copying to a Word doc is a smart strategy for a number of reasons. Then you can read at your leisure, print it out, and are less likely to get caught up in an endless web-surf loop.

    Jenny

    I can really focus when I am interested in something, and have often stayed up all night to research it or do whatever activity I enjoy, this is not always a great thing. It’s like my mind just gets locked into place , and I’m compelled to do it, or finish it, or whatever.
    Give me a task that bores the hell out of me, and instantly my mind begins to wander, and trying to finish or complete that task is almost impossible for me.

    When you know you’re not interested in something, but must work on it anyway, try setting a timer for short bursts. Then you can play “Beat the Clock” and work furiously until the timer goes off. You can use the timer for the hyper-focus locked in activities as well, but this time give yourself a 10-minute and 5-minute warning timer to gradually pull out.

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