Why ADHD Coaching?

My Coaching Clients

My private coaching clients are adults of all ages with traits of ADD / ADHD. They are smart, skilled, often highly educated, and may already be considered successful in their endeavors. But they know that their potential is much higher, if they could only learn how to get out of their own way.

Your Frustration

You have read self-help books, may have taken classes in time management or productivity, and perhaps have tried business coaching or life coaching in the past. But none of it helped in the long run. Because learning what to do wasn’t the problem.

You know what to do; you’re just not able to get yourself to DO it.

Do you relate to any of these statements?

Do You Relate?
  • You often feel overwhelmed or paralyzed, not sure of where to start.
  • Your waste hours every week looking for things.
  • You are unable to get places on time no matter how you try.
  • You procrastinate and put off starting important tasks and projects.
  • Your feelings of shame keep you from asking for help or getting answers at work.
  • You’ve gotten in trouble over poor time management or lack of follow-through.
  • You rarely end the day feeling you’ve accomplished what you intended.
  • You have trouble sleeping, always worried about what may not have been done right.
  • Your relationships suffer due to lateness and over-promising what you can’t deliver; your loved ones accuse you of not caring about them or not listening.
  • You feel like a fraud in your profession, afraid that others will find out what chaos lurks behind the scenes.

If this feels all too familiar, your ADD traits are sabotaging your success. And simply trying harder or working harder isn’t going to help.

That’s because with Attention Deficit Disorder, your brain is “wired” differently than the non-ADD brain. So strategies that may work well for 80% of the general population won’t work well for ADD – ADHD adults.

You need a customized process to help you learn to go with your own flow, but in a way that achieves positive results. The longer you go without a functional process, the more your confidence is affected. You avoid doing the things that you need to be successful, and you get stuck in a cycle of failure.

The real tragedy is that you hold yourself back from reaching for your goals, for fear that your ADD / ADHD habits will cause you to fail.

You don’t need to stay stuck

The real tragedy is that you hold yourself back from reaching for your goals, for fear that your ADD / ADHD habits will cause you to fail.

CONTACT ME to find out how ADHD Coaching could help you. The phone consultation is free.

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Benefits of ADHD Coaching

There is a light at the end of the tunnel, once you master how to work with that wonderful being that is you. Imagine you, functioning at your peak. What kind of difference would that make in your work-day? In your personal life? In your career?

Click here to find out from a few of my clients.

Get a Business Coach and ADHD Coach in One

Because of my professional background in corporate coaching and entrepreneurship I am able to provide business coaching to my ADHD clients at the same time we are working on finding the best solutions for their ADD / ADHD habits.

  • TAX DEDUCTION – A coaching investment that helps you in your career or professional development is often tax deductible! (Ask your accountant to make sure this applies to your own circumstances.)
Do You Relate?
Bonnie Mincu threw out the proverbial lifeline to me at time when I was drowning in an ocean of anxiety and stress related to ADD-related time-management and organizational difficulties.

I had recently begun working as a full-time freelance writer, and was struggling to meet the demands of several clients. It had come to the point where I was almost paralyzed by deadlines and faced losing my clients because I was perpetually late with copy. My self-esteem had plummeted, I felt extreme shame over what I perceived as past failures, and was beginning to doubt my ability as a writer.“

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“Nothing that I’ve tried has worked”

Most likely, your attempts to try different solutions have had you attempting various techniques that you heard or read about. Chances are you didn’t know how to apply them to yourself in a way that would work for you. Maybe you didn’t stick with them long enough. Or perhaps those solutions were the wrong ones for you altogether!

SELF-HELP BOOKS

Many people have said they’ve “tried everything” from self-help books. The problem is, whatever you get in a book is simply advice. Even a book advising you on what to do with ADD – ADHD may not really give the right strategy that works with your particular set of traits. Since a book is not interactive, it can’t help you through the process of figuring out how to apply the tips or techniques to yourself; how to get yourself to follow it.

PAST COACHING

If you’ve felt previous attempts at coaching were unsuccessful, it’s likely that your business coach or life coach didn’t “get” ADD. If so, the coach couldn’t understand how to get you through the shame, procrastination, disorganization, poor time management or overwhelm that made you unable to follow through with your coaching assignments.

Successful ADD / ADHD Coaching is a partnership

The coach provides the process and guidance, but you’re the one who ultimately needs to do the work. So the most important factor in successful ADD – ADHD coaching is you – whether you are willing to take small steps to do things differently than you have been. If you continue to only do what you have done in the past, simply talking every week to a coach won’t create much progress.

You’ll want to be able to trust and connect with your coach, and feel understood when you talk. The best way to determine that level of rapport is to talk to a coach. Explain what goals you would like to reach in coaching, what you would like to change, and what your expectations are. The coach will tell you if ADD – ADHD coaching can realistically meet your expectations.

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Frequently Asked Questions about ADHD Adult Coaching

Coaching is very individualized. Adults with ADD – ADHD may come to coaching for a wide variety of reasons, from finding out more about how to work with their own ADD – ADHD traits to creating a career strategy. A very specific challenge might simply involve changing a particular set of habits that can be accomplished in a few months. Deeper issues or tendencies may take more “layers” of skill-building, including learning to think issues through in a different way.

The more experienced and skilled an ADHD Coach is, the faster your progress is likely to be. While there’s no way to predict for any individual how long it will take them to reach their coaching goals, assume that habits won’t change overnight.

I start new clients with a program of 12 sessions, 60 minutes each. Sessions are usually once a week unless a more accelerated schedule is needed. Once you complete the initial 12 sessions, you may continue with me as they wish on a month-to-month basis. Many of my clients end their regular coaching at some point, but periodically reconnect for a “tune-up” whenever they need it.

Coaching is very individualized. Adults with ADD – ADHD may come to coaching for a wide variety of reasons, from finding out more about how to work with their own ADD – ADHD traits to creating a career strategy. A very specific challenge might simply involve changing a particular set of habits that can be accomplished in a few months. Deeper issues or tendencies may take more “layers” of skill-building, including learning to think issues through in a different way.

The more experienced and skilled an ADHD Coach is, the faster your progress is likely to be. While there’s no way to predict for any individual how long it will take them to reach their coaching goals, assume that habits won’t change overnight.

I start new clients with a program of 12 sessions, 60 minutes each. Sessions are usually once a week unless a more accelerated schedule is needed. Once you complete the initial 12 sessions, you may continue with me as they wish on a month-to-month basis. Many of my clients end their regular coaching at some point, but periodically reconnect for a “tune-up” whenever they need it.

Coaching is not psychotherapy. Psychotherapy is based on creating understanding of the past, and becoming aware of your motivations. Although recognizing feelings and motivations is an important part of understanding yourself, coaching focuses more on going forward, creating strategies and taking action to produce the changes you desire. A coach will help you hold your focus and move ahead, but YOU are responsible for the movement, one small step at a time.

ADD – ADHD coaching is concerned with actions and behavior in the present, and on helping you learn how to build strategies to reach goals for the future. In a coaching process, every session will generate a set of actions that you will work on to get you closer to your goal.

ADD – ADHD coaches should be, first of all, skilled and trained in coaching in general. There are many different training institutions for learning the coaching process. An ADD – ADHD Coach must be also trained to understand, identify, and work with the many unique traits of ADD – AD/HD adults.

I am a 2001 graduate of ADD Coach Academy (www.addca.com), an excellent training ground for ADD – ADHD Coaching. Its founder, David Giwerc, is a prominent Master Coach, speaker and workshop leader in the international ADD professional community and a recent president of ADDA.

With Attention Deficit Disorder, your brain is “wired” differently than the non-ADD brain. So strategies that may work well for 80% of the general population won’t work well for ADD – ADHD adults. In addition, no two people with ADD are alike. Even a book advising you on what to do with ADD – ADHD may not really give the right strategy that works with your particular set of traits.

Also, it can be hard for many people with ADD – ADHD to focus for long on a book if they don’t find it very interesting. Many people buy self-help books on various topics, hoping they will contain the one nugget of “truth” that will provide a breakthrough. But ADD is complex. There is no “one-size-fits-all” solution.

The coaching process addresses the unique complexity of the individual, allowing for tweaks along the way to find and perfect the most effective strategy for you as an individual.

You may find it hard to believe that you can learn a great deal about yourself on the phone. In typical past phone conversations, unless the interaction was very interesting, you may have found yourself drifting off. But when you are genuinely interested, you will be surprised how avidly you will be able to focus on a coaching call. And since the whole conversation is about you, your interest will remain high!

As an added plus, you don’t need to figure in travel time and inconvenience to visit another location every week.

  • Contact me for a complementary phone consultation. Email me or phone 914-478-0071 to schedule an appointment.

ADD – AD/HD medication is intended to help your brain focus at will, in a way that it doesn’t do naturally. But improved focus doesn’t help create the right strategies for doing things effectively, if you have a lifetime of habits to overcome. That is where coaching comes in, helping you develop the self-knowledge and effective habits that work for you. So both coaching AND treatment for your focus ability are important.

ADD – ADHD coaching only works with someone who wants to change, and is willing to take the steps to move towards their goals. Some people are not ready to acknowledge that they have ADD (or ADD traits). Without a willingness to “look in the mirror,” it isn’t possible to be coached successfully.

It may take a heartfelt discussion with a loved one to tell them how their traits, tendencies or habits are affecting you before they’ll consider getting help. Also, assure the person that coaching is not about “fixing” them – they’re not broken! It’s simply a process of learning how to achieve the results that they want.

ADD – ADHD coaching is a partnership. The coach provides the process and guidance, but you’re the one who ultimately needs to do the work. So the most important factor in successful ADD – ADHD coaching is you – whether you are willing to take small steps to do things differently than you have been. If you continue to only do what you have done in the past, simply talking every week to a coach won’t create much progress.

You’ll want to be able to trust and connect with your coach, and feel understood when you talk. The best way to determine that level of rapport is to talk to a coach. Explain what goals you would like to reach in coaching, what you would like to change, and what your expectations are. The coach will tell you if ADD – ADHD coaching can realistically meet your expectations.

If you think that ADD – ADHD coaching sounds like what you’re looking for and want to explore it further, let’s talk about it in a complementary phone consultation. To set it up, just phone me at 914-478-0071, or email me. We’ll talk about your own coaching goals, so that we can determine if I am the right coach for you.

Thrive with ADD Self-Coaching Workshop

You can begin to work more effectively with your ADD challenges with the self-paced coaching/learning tools I’ve created for Thrive with ADD.

  • Teleclass Recordings with Notes allow you to “listen in” at your convenience to recordings of Thrive with ADD downloadable telephone classes on a variety of Adult ADD topics. The class recordings come with easy-to-follow notes, so you can don’t have to take your own. Click here to see the list of topics.

What’s the next step?

If ADHD Coaching sounds like what you’re looking for and you want to explore it further, let’s talk about it in a complimentary phone consultation. We’ll discuss your own coaching goals and needs and determine if working together would be a good fit.

To set it up, just click the box below to email me.

Feeling spontaneous? Feel free to give me a call Monday-Friday in New York at 914-478-0071.

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ADHD Coaching Success Stories

Success Stories

Disorganized Lawyer

A lawyer in private practice had more business than he could handle – because he was handling it badly! Although he had a high success rate and plenty of referrals from other lawyers, he had suffered sleepless nights with missed court deadlines, misplaced client files and six months backlog in invoicing. His past assistants were no help, and he had no time now to hire another. He found it increasingly difficult to enter his office and start work each morning.

In coaching, we established priorities of billing his clients, creating a system for filing and updates, and hiring an expert legal assistant to run the office. I helped the lawyer establish criteria for hiring an assistant with the necessary skills and the kind of mind-set who would find it motivating to keep him organized. We created a morning ritual that incorporated what he liked to do in the morning, but got him into the office at 9:00. We broke down the invoicing into steps and identified which steps could be delegated.

RESULTS: For the first time, the lawyer had an assistant he could count on, a system to track all the client deadlines, and a more systematic way of sending out client bills on time. He now found it motivating to come to work again.

Success Stories

Clinic Physician with Overwhelming Backlog

A popular physician had worked on staff of a busy medical clinic for the past 12 years. She had a full practice and many referrals. However, she had been unable to keep up with the pace of documenting her patient visits into the software program that was now required to maintain physician’s notes. Despite several warnings, her backlog continued to grow. By the time she phoned me for help, she had been given an almost impossible ultimatum. She had just four days to enter over 100 backlogged patient notes into the system or she would lose her job.

The problem was two-fold. We had to not only figure out a process for her getting through that huge amount of work in a short time, but also to completely redesign her process for treating and documenting patients every day.

In an accelerated coaching intervention, over four days, we figured out the fastest way for her to enter all of her backlog, so her job was no longer at risk. Then over the next month, we examined and redesigned the process that she used with her patients and her assigned nurse.

RESULTS: The physician and her nurse perfected an efficient system to process the paperwork for each patient visit and to handle phone calls. The physician was able to leave at a reasonable hour every evening with all the notes entered into the record. In fact, her process was such a dramatic turn-around that the other doctors started asking her for how she did it!

Success Stories

Mother with Morning Chaos

An ADHD mother of three children under the age of eight was exhausted before her day even began. Getting the kids ready for school and all of them out the door every morning was a daily scene of stress and chaos.

Coaching helped her create efficiency in her morning process. We developed a “Get Ready” game that motivated the children to get ready more independently, rewarding them for every task they did right in their morning.

RESULTS: Rather than suffering shame that she wasn’t a good role model for her kids, the mother now helped her ADD children see that developing good functioning and habits was a conscious process that they could work on together. Best of all, they all got out each morning 45 minutes faster, with no drama.


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