ADHD and Shame: How to Ask Anything with Confidence

When you feel shame, it’s especially tough to ask a question of an intimidating person.  Learn 3 rules for asking any question with confidence that you’re NOT looking stupid.

 

adhd and shame: fear of looking stupid

If you have ADD / ADHD and are afflicted with a self-sabotaging toxic shame, you may avoid asking questions for fear of looking stupid.  The strategy called “Take It to Court” helps you regain a sense of logic, so you can ask necessary questions to look competent.

 

ADHD personal life distracts from work

It’s tough to focus on work during a time of personal crisis, with or without ADHD. Here’s how to stay productive when your mind is going around on a “What If…?!” hamster wheel.

Fidget Spinners help ADHD adults to focus...

Do fidget spinners help ADHD adults to focus?  In a way, yes…instead of fidgeting, they focus on the spinner.   But how does that help ADHD?

Have you been embarrassed at not remembering what you’ve been told, or “mis-remembering” an appointment?

The problem isn’t your memory; it’s thinking you should be relying on memory in the first place.

With ADHD, we’re sometimes faulted for impulsiveness. But the ability to make GOOD decisions very quickly is actually an asset. Read how impulsive decision-making can work to your advantage.

When you report to a boss – and want to keep your job — the expectations of the organization can replace the need for motivation.  But what do you do if there is no boss or deadline?

No, there’s NOT time for “one more thing!”  What you think will take just two  minutes is probably at least 10.

Download Free report:  “11 Reasons for ADD / ADHD Lateness”

ADHD people may focus best in public places

Waiting for the dentist?  I did my most productive and focused work all week during 45 minutes on my laptop in the dentist’s waiting room.

In fact, in that short time I got much more done than I would have in my home office….

The ADHD Could-Should Dilemma

Anna knew that having so many talents and possibilities for her life – coupled with ADD — could be both a blessing and a curse.   No matter which route she chose, she would feel that perhaps she should be taking a different direction.

The number of possibilities that you COULD do might be overwhelming. When you couple that with worry about what you SHOULD do, you can spend a long time doing nothing.