Coaching with Bonnie Mincu
Why work with an ADHD Coach?
My Coaching Clients
My private coaching clients are adults of all ages with traits of ADD / ADHD. They are smart, skilled, often highly educated, and may already be considered successful in their endeavors. But they’ve hired an ADHD coach because they know that their potential is much higher if they could only learn how to get out of their own way.
Your Frustration
You have read self-help books, may have taken classes in time management or productivity, and perhaps have tried business coaching or life coaching in the past. But none of it helped in the long run. Because learning what to do wasn’t the problem.
You know what to do; you’re just not able to get yourself to DO it. That’s where an ADHD coach is uniquely qualified to help.
Do you relate to any of these statements?
- You often feel overwhelmed or paralyzed, not sure of where to start.
- Your waste hours every week looking for things.
- You are unable to get places on time no matter how you try.
- You procrastinate and put off starting important tasks and projects.
- Your feelings of shame keep you from asking for help or getting answers at work.
- You’ve gotten in trouble over poor time management or lack of follow-through.
- You rarely end the day feeling you’ve accomplished what you intended.
- You have trouble sleeping, always worried about what may not have been done right.
- Your relationships suffer due to lateness and over-promising what you can’t deliver; your loved ones accuse you of not caring about them or not listening.
- You feel like a fraud in your profession, afraid that others will find out what chaos lurks behind the scenes.
If this feels all too familiar, your ADD traits are sabotaging your success. And simply trying harder or working harder isn’t going to help.
That’s because with Attention Deficit Disorder, your brain is “wired” differently than the non-ADD brain. So strategies that may work well for 80% of the general population won’t work well for ADD – ADHD adults.
You need a customized process to help you learn to go with your own flow, but in a way that achieves positive results. The longer you go without a functional process, the more your confidence is affected. You avoid doing the things that you need to be successful, and you get stuck in a cycle of failure.
The real tragedy is that you hold yourself back from reaching for your goals, for fear that your ADD / ADHD habits will cause you to fail.
You don’t need to stay stuck
CONTACT ME to find out how ADHD Coaching could help you. The phone or Zoom consultation is free.
ADHD Coaching Consultation
I would like to schedule a complimentary phone/skype consultation with Bonnie Mincu to discuss coaching.
Benefits of ADHD Coaching
There is a light at the end of the tunnel, once you master how to work with that wonderful being that is you. Imagine you, functioning at your peak. What kind of difference would that make in your work-day? In your personal life? In your career?
Click here to find out from a few of my clients.
Get a Business Coach and ADHD Coach in One
Because of my professional background in corporate coaching and entrepreneurship I am able to provide business coaching to my ADHD clients at the same time we are working on finding the best solutions for their ADD / ADHD habits.
- TAX DEDUCTION – A coaching investment that helps you in your career or professional development is often tax deductible! (Ask your accountant to make sure this applies to your own circumstances.)
Bonnie Mincu threw out the proverbial lifeline to me at time when I was drowning in an ocean of anxiety and stress related to ADD-related time-management and organizational difficulties.
I had recently begun working as a full-time freelance writer, and was struggling to meet the demands of several clients. It had come to the point where I was almost paralyzed by deadlines and faced losing my clients because I was perpetually late with copy. My self-esteem had plummeted, I felt extreme shame over what I perceived as past failures, and was beginning to doubt my ability as a writer.“
Click Here to Read More“Nothing that I’ve tried has worked”
Most likely, your attempts to try different solutions have had you attempting various techniques that you heard or read about. Chances are you didn’t know how to apply them to yourself in a way that would work for you. Maybe you didn’t stick with them long enough. Or perhaps those solutions were the wrong ones for you altogether!
SELF-HELP BOOKS
Many people have said they’ve “tried everything” from self-help books. The problem is, whatever you get in a book is simply advice. Even a book advising you on what to do with ADD – ADHD may not really give the right strategy that works with your particular set of traits. Since a book is not interactive, it can’t help you through the process of figuring out how to apply the tips or techniques to yourself; how to get yourself to follow it.
PAST COACHING
If you’ve felt previous attempts at coaching were unsuccessful, it’s likely that your business coach or life coach didn’t “get” ADD. If so, the coach couldn’t understand how to get you through the shame, procrastination, disorganization, poor time management or overwhelm that made you unable to follow through with your coaching assignments.
Successful ADD / ADHD Coaching is a partnership
The ADHD coach provides the process and guidance, but you’re the one who ultimately needs to do the work. So the most important factor in successful ADD – ADHD coaching is you – whether you are willing to take small steps to do things differently than you have been. If you continue to only do what you have done in the past, simply talking every week to a coach won’t create much progress.
You’ll want to be able to trust and connect with your coach, and feel understood when you talk. The best way to determine that level of rapport is to talk to a coach. Explain what goals you would like to reach in coaching, what you would like to change, and what your expectations are. The coach will tell you if ADD – ADHD coaching can realistically meet your expectations.
Frequently Asked Questions about ADHD Adult Coaching
Coaching is very individualized. Adults with ADD – ADHD may come to coaching for a wide variety of reasons, from finding out more about how to work with their own ADD – ADHD traits to creating a career strategy. A very specific challenge might simply involve changing a particular set of habits that can be accomplished in a few months. Deeper issues or tendencies may take more “layers” of skill-building, including learning to think issues through in a different way.
The more experienced and skilled an ADHD coach is, the faster your progress is likely to be. While there’s no way to predict for any individual how long it will take them to reach their coaching goals, assume that habits won’t change overnight.
I start new clients with a program of 12 sessions, 60 minutes each. Sessions are usually once a week unless a more accelerated schedule is needed. Once you complete the initial 12 sessions, you may continue with me as they wish on a month-to-month basis. Many of my clients end their regular coaching at some point, but periodically reconnect for a “tune-up” whenever they need it.
The real question is, what will it cost you to achieve the results you want to achieve. The important factor is the value you receive for the investment in coaching. Again, the answer is very individual. Reaching your goal is a combination of the skill of your coach in discerning what you need to move forward, as well as the progress that you make between your coaching sessions.
In a complimentary consultation, my prospective clients and I talk about their needs and roadblocks. I need to determine if I believe they could achieve what they want to in 12 weeks of coaching, or if a longer or shorter program makes sense.
- As a valuable added benefit to coaching, my 12-session coaching program includes lifetime free access to my monthly membership training program, Productivity Pathfinder. It’s a wealth of training, tools and resources for all challenges facing adults with traits of ADD / ADHD, and includes ongoing support.
Coaching is not psychotherapy. Psychotherapy is based on creating understanding of the past, and becoming aware of your motivations. Although recognizing feelings and motivations is an important part of understanding yourself, coaching focuses more on going forward, creating strategies and taking action to produce the changes you desire. A coach will help you hold your focus and move ahead, but YOU are responsible for the movement, one small step at a time.
ADD – ADHD coaching is concerned with actions and behavior in the present, and on helping you learn how to build strategies to reach goals for the future. In a coaching process, every session will generate a set of actions that you will work on to get you closer to your goal.
ADD – ADHD coaches should be, first of all, skilled and trained in coaching in general. There are many different training institutions for learning the coaching process. An ADD – ADHD Coach must be also trained to understand, identify, and work with the many unique traits of ADD – AD/HD adults.
I am a 2001 graduate of ADD Coach Academy (www.addca.com), an excellent training ground for ADD – ADHD Coaching. Its founder, David Giwerc, is a prominent Master Coach, speaker and workshop leader in the international ADD professional community and a recent president of ADDA.
With Attention Deficit Disorder, your brain is “wired” differently than the non-ADD brain. So strategies that may work well for 80% of the general population won’t work well for ADD – ADHD adults. In addition, no two people with ADD are alike. Even a book advising you on what to do with ADD – ADHD may not really give the right strategy that works with your particular set of traits.
Also, it can be hard for many people with ADD – ADHD to focus for long on a book if they don’t find it very interesting. Many people buy self-help books on various topics, hoping they will contain the one nugget of “truth” that will provide a breakthrough. But ADD is complex. There is no “one-size-fits-all” solution.
The coaching process addresses the unique complexity of the individual, allowing for tweaks along the way to find and perfect the most effective strategy for you as an individual.
You have the option of talking by phone, or online face-to-face.
You may find it hard to believe that you can learn a great deal about yourself without an in-person meeting. In typical past phone conversations, unless the interaction was very interesting, you may have found yourself drifting off. But when you are genuinely interested, you will be surprised how avidly you will be able to focus on a coaching call. And since the whole conversation is about you, your interest will remain high!
As an added plus, you don’t need to figure in travel time and inconvenience to visit another location every week.
- Contact me for a complimentary phone consultation. Email me or phone 914-478-0071 to schedule an appointment.
ADD – ADHD medication is intended to help your brain focus at will, in a way that it doesn’t do naturally. But improved focus doesn’t help create the right strategies for doing things effectively, if you have a lifetime of habits to overcome. That is where coaching comes in, helping you develop the self-knowledge and effective habits that work for you. So both coaching and treatment for your focus ability are important.
ADD – ADHD coaching only works with someone who wants to change, and is willing to take the steps to move towards their goals. Some people are not ready to acknowledge that they have ADD (or ADD traits). Without a willingness to “look in the mirror,” it isn’t possible to be coached successfully.
It may take a heartfelt discussion with a loved one to tell them how their traits, tendencies or habits are affecting you before they’ll consider getting help. Also, assure the person that coaching is not about “fixing” them – they’re not broken! It’s simply a process of learning how to achieve the results that they want.
ADD – ADHD coaching is a partnership. The coach provides the process and guidance, but you’re the one who ultimately needs to do the work. So the most important factor in successful ADD – ADHD coaching is you – whether you are willing to take small steps to do things differently than you have been. If you continue to only do what you have done in the past, simply talking every week to a coach won’t create much progress.
You’ll want to be able to trust and connect with your coach, and feel understood when you talk. The best way to determine that level of rapport is to talk to a coach. Explain what goals you would like to reach in coaching, what you would like to change, and what your expectations are. The coach will tell you if ADD – ADHD coaching can realistically meet your expectations.
Thrive with ADD Self-Coaching Workshop
You can begin to work more effectively with your ADD challenges with the self-paced coaching/learning tools I’ve created for Thrive with ADD.
- THRIVE WITH ADD Self-Coaching Workshop In-a-Box is a package of Workbook, Set of CD’s and extra bonus downloads. Click here to find out about it.
- Teleclass Recordings with Notes allow you to “listen in” at your convenience to recordings of Thrive with ADD downloadable telephone classes on a variety of Adult ADD topics. The class recordings come with easy-to-follow notes, so you can don’t have to take your own. Click here to see the list of topics.
What’s the next step?
If ADHD Coaching sounds like what you’re looking for and you want to explore it further, let’s talk about it in a complimentary phone consultation. We’ll discuss your own coaching goals and needs and determine if working together would be a good fit.
To set it up, just click the box below to email me.
Feeling spontaneous? Feel free to give me a call Monday-Friday in New York at 914-478-0071.
ADHD Coaching Consultation
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