Breakthrough Solutions

for Attention Deficit Disorder Adults

Bonnie Mincu

Senior Certified ADHD Coach

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Determine your reasons for avoidance

A common problem with many ADD-ADHD Adults is avoiding or not doing what they intended to do on a daily basis.  If this sounds like you, you can start reaching your best solutions by asking yourself the kind of questions an ADHD Coach would ask you.

State your intention clearly.  Start with having a clear intention of what you want to do tomorrow, and exactly how and where you plan to do it.  Then, tomorrow night, write down whether or not you followed through on your intention as you planned.  If not, write what exactly got in your way.

That “I don't feel like it” feeling

Often what gets in the way is just “not feeling like it.”  If that's the case, probe yourself a bit more to get specific about WHY you didn't feel like it

Common reasons people with ADD-ADHD avoid doing things are:

  • it seemed too boring
  • unsure what to do (ambiguity)
  • afraid you wouldn't know how to do it right
  • discomfort around the outcome of doing it
  • couldn't tear yourself away from what you were already doing
  • it seemed like an overwhelming task
  • resentment about doing it
  • avoiding doing it due to shame or embarrassment

Each of these “don't feel like it” reasons are powerful roadblocks for you to overcome.  Learning how will make a big difference in your follow-through.  But they each require different kinds of solutions.

Unfortunately, there's no one-size-fits-all answers.  As you can imagine, your own personal strategy for breaking through boredom will be quite different than tools you might need to pull out of feeling overwhelmed.   The coaching process of questioning helps determine the answers that will work for you.  Similarly, the Thrive with ADD Self-Coaching Workbook & CD package will guide you through the process of creating those customized solutions that someone with ADD needs.  No matter how you arrive at your answers, once you learn to coach yourself, you'll know how to break through the avoidance.

Author: Bonnie Mincu
Senior Certified ADHD Coach, Founder of "Thrive with ADD," Bonnie has been coaching adults with ADD / ADHD traits since 2001. She has developed numerous training programs to help with the challenges of Adult Attention Deficit Disorder.

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Bonnie, there are no words to express how deeply I’ve been affected by your blog! I’ve only read a few things, but they have created such a complete mind shift that the tears shed have washed away my struggles forever!

For the first time in my life I feel understood and hopeful that I can put some tools and systems in place to help me overcome!”

—Michelle near Seattle

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